PROMISES ARE NOT ENOUGH TO BE LOVED.





Haven't you wondered how people make vague promises to their spouse about what they'd like to work on?  When misunderstanding happens they're so quick to make promise of better behaviour while no effort goes into making the promise a reality. The problem is not because they don't want to change; but they forget that their promise requires deliberate effort and and willingness to improve for it to happen. Promising somebody you love that you'd do something to improve your attitude and benefit your love life would not make them love you back if you do not keep the promises.
Breaking your promises only sends a signal that you do not love your partner even if you love him/her and this could be reason you won't feel the love of your partner in return. So what do you do if you're in this situation?



1. BEFORE YOU MAKE A PROMISE TO BE BETTER, BE HONEST WITH YOUR SELF THAT YOU REALLY WANT TO TURN A NEW LEAF.


Self awareness is important while making any promise, if the promise you're making is what you really desire to be it would be easy for you to achieve it. However if you do not feel the need to work on any area of your life please don't promise your partner that you'd work on it because your goal can only be achievable if the decision to change is made out of honesty. Example is a scenario where somebody knows he/she cannot make the demand or request of their partner but still makes promises they can't keep. A person like that can never enjoy the relationship with nis/partner. If you're honest and you know you really want to be better then read on..


2. WRITE DOWN THE PROMISE YOU'RE MAKING.


Writing down the promise or goal you intend to keep will help you to be conscious of it. What you write down you can never forget it. Writing down a goal is like shining light on a place; it helps you to see what needs to be seen. After writing it down you need to begin to practice it. Put into action what needs to be done. YOU HAVE TO BE DELIBERATE IN MAKING THAT VITAL CHANGE IN THE AREA OF DEFICIENCY FOR YOU TO BE A BETTER PERSON. WHEN YOU PROMISE YOUR PARTNER TO LIVE RIGHT AND YOU KEEP THAT PROMISE YOU CAN NEVER LOSE HIS OR HER LOVE. A MAN OR WOMAN WHO'S SINCERE IN HER WORDS IS A PERSON OF INTEGRITY WHO IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE.  It doesn't take much but deliberate effort to be better is what it takes. IF YOU'VE HURT YOUR PARTNER AND YOU'RE WILLING TO CHANGE FOR BETTER, PROMISING YOUR PARTNER IS NOT WHAT WILL MAKE HIM OR HER TO LOVE YOU BACK LIKE BEFORE, BUT KEEPING THAT PROMISE OF BECOMING BETTER IS WHAT WILL GET BACK THEIR LOVE FOR YOU.



3. WHEN YOU'VE SEEN THE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE PLEASE DON'T GO BACK TO THE OLD HABIT.

It's very easy to change a habit than maintaining the change. People have the tendency to go back to their old habits and  walk on slippery floor. Going back to the wrong things you used to do which causes trouble between you and your partner would only send a signal that you don't care how your partner about your behaviour.
If you want to have a real relationship where there's happiness you have to work towards it, no one is perfect in life but we shouldn't settle for wrong behaviour, there's always a room for improvement in life and everyone should strive to be better in character. Misunderstanding is a way of knowing what your partner likes and dislikes, but if you don't learn to avoid what triggers your partners anger then I'm sorry to say your relationship cannot stand the test of love. 

IF YOU WANT TO BE LOVED BY YOUR LOVER AFTER A MISUNDERSTANDING YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS FACT; 'PROMISING YOUR PARTNER THAT YOU WOULD CHANGE FOR GOOD IS NOT ENOUGH TO MAKE HIM/HER LOVE YOU IF YOU DON'T CHANGE THE BAD ATTITUDE. LET YOUR ACTION BACK UP YOUR PROMISES.

WARNING: Don't take a good person for granted. If the demand is on you to be a better person in life please don't refuse to do so.   

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